When was the last time you had a conversation with someone who looked you in the the eye, listened intently, and seem genuinely interested in what you were saying? Almost seems uncomfortable for some of us..right?? We stayed glued to our cell phone (key work Cell for prisoner), we text or email rather than call and certainly cannot think of have a one on one conversation wit someone. I’m to busy, I have errands to run, I need to get to the mall, I need to pay my bills, I need to check on my family and on and on. It’s all about me and my four and no more…..
All valid things to place in ones itinerary….but at the loss of being human? Then we don’t understand why when we are in need of an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on or someone just to sit around and “chew the fat with” no one is available. No one seems to care about our needs or difficulties. And why… because they are too busy telling you I’m to busy, I have errands to run, I need to get to the mall, I need to pay my bills, I need to check on my family and on and on. It’s all about me and my four and no more…..
It is a catch 22! The bottom line is we all have the same time in a day. We should schedule listening and human compassion for others in the world beside our immediate tribe. Or even schedule more eye time with members of our tribe. Bottom line we have to make time. By the giving of “time” one of the most valuable commodities in the world, we get back 100 fold. My pal crone Lindsee Ellesmere is one of those rare humans who listens to you, laugh’s with you, gets fashimilt with you, and just all around supports your stupidity when you do not deserve it. I strive to be more like her. You should too.
Stop, take a breath, and listen to at least one soul trying to tell you a story today. It may be sad, it may be stressful, it may be they are asking an unanswerable question, or just wanting to share a funny story to make you laugh. Take time to really listen (don’t sit there planning a response ). They may not even want you to speak at all …just listen. Try being human again for a few minutes. The rewards are inexplicable and refreshing.
Please don’t misunderstand, we Crones know a “psychic sponge” when we hear one and do not let them waste our time telling the same sad tale, story of assaches and woundettes over and over again. We are not required to do that. We know how to be discerning as Crones, Divas, and Goddesses. However, love yourself enough today to listen to one story of any type. Be in the moment and let the Universe give you the right response and reward.
The Crones Love You All.
The Queen Cronista