Diva Rambling: Power of Words…

Power of Words…

I recently read a quote: “Words cast spells. That’s why it’s called “SPELLING”. Words are energy, choose them wisely.

Whoever said sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me…was, in my opinion, totally out of touch with human emotion. Some of us are more tough skinned than others and words from idiots don’t bother us. But some of us are sensitive beings whose confidence is easily shattered by a harsh or bullying discourse from peers. While I am blessed not to be one of them I certainly understand how words impact those glorious, sensitive, souls who struggle with balancing the sensory overload caused by human input.

If we could only edit our thoughts to be kinder, we would do so much less damage to those around us. In our current world many don’t give a rats assets to care. They leave soul destruction in the wake of their journey through the world each day. I cannot say I’m an angel, because I’ll use whatever words I feel meet the need of the moment, when I see or hear a bully taking on an innocent anywhere, anytime. I am not a crone you want to tangle with for any reason. However, while I try to remember the power of my “word spells”, usually don’t let go unless I believe I’m seeing evil incarnate spewing on the innocent.

My point is, always realize that words do have power over others in different ways. Choose your words wisely as they are conversations with the Universe and it will send Karma your way for the choices you’ve made…good or bad!

Found a good light heart-ed poem for emphasis on the power of words….

A fairy sung a song
beauty of those words
rivers start to flow
flowers start to grow
universe slowed
Just to hear that melody

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Namaste, The Queen Cronista

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Diva Ranting: Disposable Family/Siblings

Disposable Siblings

It’s a universal law that we can pick on our siblings ceaselessly. And years later we still put guilt trips on them about the injustices they inflicted on us in our formative years. For some of us it takes years of therapy to overcome these injustices. Usually we all grow up and laugh at it all later. However, for those of who have a sadistic, social climbing wanna be, or a mean spirited snob for a relative they likely never leave it behind. They are embarrassed of their families and rarely if ever communicate with them. I have grown friends in their fifties and sixties who still lament these so called relatives in their lives. They still feel the hurt of the vicious behavior that has never stopped.

The Universe did not intend for us to carry the baggage of that kind of behavior from anyone in our lives. Learn to let go. Being related by blood does not mean you have to have anything to do with anyone who does not respect you for the wonderful person you’ve become. Thinking about them only intrudes on a life that is meant to be enjoyed. Don’t keep pouring salt on the wound. Ignoring bad people works and hurts no one. Some siblings in particular are evil incarnate. They are more worried about labels and social climbing than they are family or even people in general. Do not feel bad about shutting them out of your life. You need to make room to enjoy the wonder the Universe has put all around us.

I believe the best revenge is done by having a life fulfilled in spite of anyone who would have us do differently. Blocking the bad from your life lets you heal and allows you to focus on the things and people who truly matter.                          Namaste, The Queen Cronista  

Diva Ranting: The Land of the Invisible…

The Land of the Invisible… Really?

When I was a young person struggling in the world of fashion design, I use to visit the hippie head shops of Atlanta to get my designs on display and do window display for what we called the “head shops and boutiques”. I met some of the most fascinating older women. Beautiful silver haired divas with flowing garments and lilting voices. They were so strong and confident. I use to think…”I want to be an old hippie like them.” They offered so much wisdom on my quests at that time.

We all need to find mentors who are leaps and bounds ahead of us in the wisdom department. They are all around, but often missed because we so often do not recognize antiques as treasures. Life is much less domineering if we don’t have to find our path alone. If we are making our own maps through the Universe, it can be both a rocky and exciting trip, but help is better.

Older women get more confident but often become invisible at age 40 in our Western culture. So many of us see it as a relief, actually. No more pressure to look like something we are not. We become non-existent and in that is some form of freedom. However, I’ve always said I’d like to be a grandmother like Tina Turner in the song “Proud Mary” ….”I never do anything nice and easy!” The Proud Mary keeps on turning…” I welcomed my wrinkles as a badge of courage and fortitude. I honor aging gracefully and invisibility is not always a bad thing. You get to see more when you are invisible. Don’t get me wrong. The old hippie in me can still take over a room and have a party or anarchy going in ten minutes, if I choose.

However, with age should come wisdom and I honor my life’s journey and where it has brought me. I have forty-two years of corporate savvy under my belt and fourteen years of fashion design and retailing. Years of free coaching skills to offer and only the most astute students and young entrepreneurs ask for my help. I have one former student that wants me to open his law office when he graduates from Law School and run his campaign for governor when I’m eighty. I asked him if he realized how mean I’d likely be by then. He said… “I know that’s why I need you.” I will not go gently into obscurity. I plan to dance like no one is watching until I cannot dance anymore.

I say all that to tell you this. I can think of a number of other wise women who are also carrying on, on their own ground. I, you, we need to find them, and feel inspired by them. It is the wisdom of the grandmothers in our society that made our cultures strong and upstanding; as much as any warrior or leader. Homo-Sapient evolved to have older formidable women. Ever ask why we have women who survive long after their fertile years? An experienced kick-ass, older woman can improve the genetic odds for her kinship by quite a margin. We will not be invisible.

Let’s find the grandmothers and divas who spark our society behind the scenes. Let’s use their wisdom to our advantage. We, the grandmothers, do not give a rat’s ass about social convention. We live on our own terms and are willing to share with others our wisdom of the ages. Think us invisible at your own peril.                  Namaste, The Queen Cronista.

Diva Ranting: CRAP

Toxic Family 2…

CRAP

Crazy

Rude

Allboutme

Parvenu

I’ve been on a bit of a rant lately because so many of my friends, young and old, are dealing with family who do not serve the greatest good of anyone in their lives. I don’t know if its because the wannabe’s of the world are getting worse or I’m just hearing and noticing it more.

A child who hasn’t spoken to family for 30 years because they are embarrassed of them and where they come from, or a family member who only associates with family that has a decent Dunn and Bradstreet rating, all equally at fault in narcissistic, passive aggressive behavior patterns. Friend or Family is not a title one just has, it has to be earned.

I’m a big fan of keeping “crap” out of my auric field. If we continue to let these people in there is little hope for our happiness. Don’t get me wrong. I’m a firm believer in forgiveness. However, that does not come along with allowing the toxic people back into your life to continually pollute our happiness. Toxic is still toxic no matter how much of the air freshener of forgiveness we spray on it. We have to drain the pond and refill, only with fresh water. Also, we don’t let the family members who drink the cool aid of guilt, try to convince us otherwise. Let them swim in the cesspool of toxicity all they want. We also limit contact with them as much as possible, so we don’t have to relive the hurt through others continued pain and suffering.

Believe me, it’s OK to live a guilt free and joyful life without the “crap”. Being beaten down by pedantic, self centered people is Not what the Universe wants us to do. This article is about “Crap”. So in the time we took to read it we most probably let some memories of crap resurface in our hard drive. It’s like a virus. However, we can get rid of a virus. Do it now! and don’t let it reinfect your system. Its all about choices …and we we get to choose. Here is to a clean hard drive and no viruses, Divas. Namaste, The Queen Cronista

Diva Ranting: Toxic Family…

Toxic Family…

It’s a universal law that we can pick on our siblings ceaselessly. And years later we still put guilt trips on them about the injustices they inflicted on us in our formative years. For some of us it takes years of therapy to overcome these injustices. Usually we all grow up and laugh at it all later. However, for those of who have a sadistic, social climbing wanna be, or a mean spirited snob for a relative they likely never leave it behind. They are embarrassed of their families and rarely if ever communicate with them. I have grown friends in their fifties and sixties who still lament these so called relatives in their lives. They still feel the hurt of the vicious behavior that has never stopped.

The Universe did not intend for us to carry the baggage of that kind of behavior from anyone in our lives. Learn to let go. Being related by blood does not mean you have to have anything to do with anyone who does not respect you for the wonderful person you’ve become. Thinking about them only intrudes on a life that is meant to be enjoyed. Don’t keep pouring salt on the wound. Ignoring bad people works and hurts no one.

Some siblings in particular are evil incarnate. They are more worried about labels and social climbing than they are family or even people in general. Do not feel bad about shutting them out of your life. You need to make room to enjoy the wonder the Universe has put all around us.

I believe the best revenge is done by having a life fulfilled in spite of anyone who would have us do differently. Blocking the bad from your life lets you heal and allows you to focus on the things and people who truly matter to you.                              Namaste, The Queen Cronista

Diva Rambling: The Truth Gets Hurt….

Truth Gets Hurt

In our modern day chaos, the old adage “The Truth Hurts!” seems to be gaining momentum more and more. As the human race stomps truths of every sort into the ground to find the lie that makes them feel best or serves their own personal needs best. It seems the adage should now be more like …”The Truth Gets Hurt!”

The dark energy being produced by this behavior is quite honestly destroying our world. We have no one to blame but us. Lightworkers can only do what they can do to keep the energy up. However, the negativity and lies are becoming a struggle for those of us who care and try to keep the light bright.

Lightworkers, keep doing what you are doing. In the end light always triumphs over darkness; sadly not without struggle. Namaste, The Queen Cronista

Diva Ranting: Law of the Universe….

Law of the Universe…
They say that a good social network and getting plenty of hugs each day will make us live longer and healthier lives. I’ve always asked who is the proverbial “they”? Anyway, I agree, but to some extent they need to do the research, I think. Nowadays everything is done by virtual media. Hugs, thinking of you, how are you, happy birthday, get well soon. All of this can be done from a distance, with no personal contact required. We’ve taken the “person” out of personal.
I still love to turn the page of a book. I love getting a card of any kind in the mail (except junk from banks and politicians). I like to see families hugging their children instead of tossing a computer at them to keep them out of the way. We must participate in our civilization in order to keep it healthier and viable. We cannot continually push off the duty to participate in our friends and families lives to schools, police, and social media. Taking patriotism, social ethics, business ethics, prayer, out of the classrooms has led to a generation of vipers. Children with respect of any kind, no appreciation of anything, and worse no conscience. That is why bulling and school shootings are on the rise. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure that one out.
I use to tell my children, you and only you have to live with the consequences of every decision you make. The Karma Cops will always find you. Kids today know today, on a whole, there are no consequences to their actions and a pissy little “time out” is the only punishment. They haven’t even been told the Karma Cops are coming; no matter what.
The demands of the current world are so extreme that it makes us forgetful, unappreciative and mentally drained and unhealthy in general. That is not even factoring in our need for everlasting “stuff” which allows industry to pollute all of nature without any consequences; yet. Both business and governments only have commitment to profits… personal and monetary. Our own greed allows them to get away with it; again cause and effect; consequences!
We no longer possess the unwritten duties to each other we use to have in times gone by. When the poor and hungry break the law they are punished. When the serial killers of the government vote against us and pocket vast amounts of ill gotten gain in their off shore accounts they are rewarded even more (The Karma Cops will come).
The simple fact is… as humans we have always depended on community and civil law to survive. We, all peoples, depend on each other to keep balance in the world. We depend on the people around us to care and not abuse privileges. We depend on farmers, laborers, medical professionals, civil service workers and a plethora of other good people for food, for amenities, for services and healthcare. Nowadays we all too often disregard this fact and think of only ourselves. If we don’t… the ties that bind us together, the link to humanity, will diminish further. If we continue to pass through each day with a lack of gratitude we will reap the reward of our indifference by loosing all that we now depend on. If we don’t see the importance of working together, what we end up with is self-aggrandizement, and reward for evil at extreme cost to the masses.
Don’t get me wrong. I am by no means a passivist. I am in to butt kicking the proven guilty and helping those in real need. But our duty to our world is an unwritten law of the Universe that is being broken all too often in our world. We must each do our part to fulfill our duty no matter what. What can you do today to uphold your duty? Namaste, The Queen Cronista