Diva Musing: Signs From The Universe….

When going through a “Dark Night of the Soul” I often step up my web searches for inspiration.  I hope this one inspires you too.  Namaste, the Queen Cronista
There are so many times in life that we as humans begin to feel lost. Sometimes, this feeling can remain with us almost as if we are stuck and then all of a sudden it will be as is if everything is starting to fall into place.
You will start to see signs everywhere and they will come in from all different aspects, and this can mean anything, nothing is off limits. I am sure you have already heard on more than one occasion that the universe works in mysterious ways’ but it really does. We are all receiving guidance from an outside source whether we notice it or not. If you think you have been missing out on a message that the universe was trying to send to you the following things might be able to help.
8 Ways To Recognize Signs From The Universe:
1. You are being faced with a challenge.
The universe will throw many different challenges your way but some are much worse than others. When this happens you are being forced into bettering yourself whether you realize it or not. Some decisions are hard to make and some challenges are hard to overcome but you can do it.
2. You are at a standstill.
Something has you feeling very out of synch. It seems as if no matter what you just cannot settle on how to move forward in life. The universe is telling you that you need to make a serious change in your life.
3. You notice synchronicities.
If you are seeing repeating numbers the universe is letting you know you are on the right path. Synchronicities come in all kinds of forms, repeating numbers being the most common. If someone unexpected comes back into your life listen to what they have to say, the universe may have sent them for a reason.
4. You can’t get something specific off of your mind.
When something needs to be brought to your attention it will be. The universe will not let your mind rest until what needs to be done is done. If you cannot get it off your mind chances are you aren’t thinking about it in the right way.
5. Your intuition is nagging at you.
If your intuition keeps telling you there is something odd about someone, don’t ignore it. Your intuition is a direct link to the source in some ways and it is a means for your spirit guides to show you things. If you are in danger or even just need to be a little wary, your intuition will tell you.
6. Your life suddenly becomes eventful.
When the universe has something to say to you, no matter how long it takes the universe will send you signals. Eventually, the point will be made and you will see it. When we are traveling down our paths in life the universe is going to ensure we stay on track. Sure, we may fall, and we may sometimes end up stuck but in the end, we will be where we were meant to be.
7. You are more sensitive to energies than normal.
Your intentions start getting higher than usual. You are aligned with the universe and as a result, you will have a lot of vibrational influx. The vibrations of the people around you will start to affect you, and you will find yourself feeling overwhelmed.
8. Your dreams are more vivid.
When we are asleep the veil that separates our world from the rest is thin. This allows the universe to send us messages in our dreams. These messages can be anything and are sometimes hard to interpret.
https://www.eckharttolle.com/eckhart-on-the-dark-night-of-the-soul/
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Diva Musing: About Life…

I have posted Napoleon Hill several times.  I wanted to re post this one.  He is the father of motivational speakers to my thoughts.
About Life
by Napoleon Hill
Life, you can’t subdue me because I refuse to take your discipline too seriously. When you try to hurt me, I laugh — and the laughter knows no pain. I appreciate your joys wherever I find them; your sorrows neither frighten nor discourage me, for there is laughter in my soul.
Temporary defeat does not make me sad. I simply set music to the words of defeat and turn it into a song. Your tears are not for me, for I like laughter much better, and because I like it, I use it as a substitute for grief and sorrow and pain and disappointment.
Life, you are a fickle trickster — don’t deny it. You slipped the emotion of love into my heart so that you might use it as a thorn with which to prick my soul — but I learned to dodge your trap with laughter. You tried to lure me with the desire for gold, but I have fooled you by following the trail which leads to knowledge instead. You induced me to build beautiful friendships — then converted my friends to enemies so you may harden my heart, but I sidestepped your figure on this by laughing off your attempts and selecting new friends in my own way.
You caused men to cheat me at trade so I will become distrustful, but I won again because I possess one precious asset which no man can steal — it is the power to think my own thoughts and to be myself. You threaten me with death, but to me death is nothing worse than a long peaceful sleep, and sleep is the sweetest of human experiences — excepting laughter. You build a fire of hope in my heart, then sprinkle water on the flames, but I can go you one better by rekindling the fire — and I laugh at you once more.
You have nothing that can lure me away from laughter, and you are powerless to scare me into submission. To a life of laughter, then, I raise my cup of cheer!
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Diva Musing: Mindfulness….

I struggle with this each day. I’m always searching for provocative tips on Mindfulness. I thought I should share this one school of thought. Props to the Purpose Fairy for helping us.
Namaste, The Queen Cronista
What Does Practicing Mindfulness Actually Mean?
Life is a dance. Mindfulness is witnessing that dance.”
We live in an era where it’s critical to be self-aware, empathetic, and tuned into the emotions of both ourselves and those around us. While this has always been an important part of life, the sheer quantity of distractions in the digital era can complicate the issue. 
The simple act of being aware, of practicing mindfulness has a host of different benefits and side effects that trickle down into our daily lives, enhancing our minds, physical bodies, emotions, and attitudes.
What Does Practicing Mindfulness Actually Mean?
The term “mindfulness” is often brought up in a variety of contexts that can make it difficult to pin down just what the word actually means. It’s key to managing anxiety, and the term can be defined as “ an awareness and acceptance of your thoughts, feelings, and environment.”
The truly mindful person isn’t interested in figuring out the “right way” to feel as much as simply understanding how they feel in the first place. Feelings are valid in and of themselves. The feeling of anger, for instance, is typically a secondary emotion that stems from a deeper concern like fear or anxiety. Bottling it up hardly makes it go away. Acting out on it isn’t healthy either. Trying to understand it, though, can provide a path to a healthy solution.
When you take a purposeful approach to mindfulness, you are attempting to experience and understand your thoughts, emotions, and environment rather than stuff or control them. This allows you to make a thoughtful decision about what to do next.
Needless to say, the side effects of this approach are nothing short of profound.
The Benefits of Practicing Mindfulness to Your Physical Health
There are many physical effects of mindfulness. For instance, being mentally aware can help you cope with chronic pain or improve your sleep. It has also been shown to reduce stress, depression, and anxiety levels — all of which can have a dramatic effect on physical health.
In addition, practicing mindfulness and meditation on a daily basis can increase your brain’s ability to learn. One study, for instance, showed that subjects who spent 27 minutes a day practicing mindful meditationhad increased grey matter density in their hippocampus, which directly translates into an improved ability to learn and memorize information.
Improvements to Your Mental Well-Being
While the physical effects of mindfulness are impressive, the influence it can have on your cognitive abilities is arguably even greater. 
As educational consultant Gina Belli says, the simple act of finding time for meditating and practicing mindfulness is naturally beneficial “as allowing for mindfulness can help you achieve better focus and great purpose later on.” In other words, giving yourself time to mentally rest can increase your focus and drive. Doing so also helps reduce stress, anxiety, and depression levels, which can have a powerful impact on how you think and cope with the often incessant pressures of daily life. 
Practicing mindfulness also allows you to observe your thoughts rather than obsess with or straight-up avoid them as is too often the case.
Understanding how and why we think in certain ways is a powerful tool and one that has found tremendous success in areas like cognitive behavioral therapy. Taking the time to thoughtfully consider things like cognitive distortions can radically influence the way we perceive the world around us. 
Gaining Perspective
Finally, being mindful can simply help you gain a better overall perspective of life itself. Being aware of yourselves, others, and your environment can encourage you to turn off your screens, occasionally separate yourself from constant information overload, and simply find the time to just be.
In short, the act of being aware often leads to an overtly grateful attitude towards life and a desire to weed out unhealthy distractions. 
Practicing Mindfulness
As is so often the case, being aware of the benefits doesn’t automatically mean you can partake in them. Being mindful can take a great deal of focus and commitment. This isn’t because it’s difficult to actually be mindful, but because it’s difficult to break our own habitual thought processes. 
But you don’t need to sell everything you own and move to a monastery in Tibet in order to begin to feel the effects of a thoughtful life. If you find that you’re struggling to maintain a mindful attitude, consider ways to start implementing smaller baby steps towards that goal.
You can start, for instance, by simply looking for time in your daily routine to meditate and focus on your mindset, even if it’s just five minutes a day
However you choose to go about it, it’s important to remember that it’s worth the investment. It’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters in our busy modern lives.
However, a genuine effort to find mindfulness is an excellent first step on the road to a true appreciation of the act of living life itself.
https://www.purposefairy.com/89127/life-changing-effects-practicing-mindfulness/

Diva Rambling: Nature’s Plan….

Napoleon Hill again.  He understood the Universe’s plan and honored it.  Namaste, The Queen Cronista

Failure seems to be nature’s plan for preparing us for great responsibilities.

If everything we attempted in life were achieved with a minimum of effort and came out exactly as planned, how little we would learn — and how boring life would be! And how arrogant we would become if we succeeded at everything we attempted. Failure allows us to develop the essential quality of humility. It is not easy — when you are the person experiencing failure — to accept it philosophically, serene in the knowledge that this is one of life’s great learning experiences. But it is. Nature’s ways are not always easily understood, but they are repetitive and therefore predictable. You can be absolutely certain that when you feel you are being most unfairly tested, you are being prepared for great achievement.

Napoleon Hill~

Diva Musing: This Hit a Note….

How does overcoming your fears, concerns, your limitations, and your what-ifs give you access to step out of your comfort zone and will empower your life? If you come from a place of anything is possible, anything is possible 
This very question was asked by Leandra Antonutti, who led a Baptiste Yoga Assisting Course in Yoga Lab, Singapore, end May 2019. I was quite hesitant in writing this article because I was ashamed; ashamed of the thoughts that came up from that weekend; that never surfaced past my journal pages.
When Your Start Overcoming Your Fears and Limitations Anything Is Possible!
And since ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE especially in sharing my fears and my insecurities, I am doing this.
Before the weekend of the Assisting course (which was amazing), I was battling the stories in my head and my fears of being forgotten because I wasn’t asked to help out aka be an assistant to the facilitator. 
Being an assistant in a Baptiste Yoga program is important to me as I am passionate about building a Baptiste yoga community here in Singapore and being one of 3 certified Baptiste Yoga Teachers, I want to be a stand for the community.
I did make a request for the assistant’s role however they asked someone else and I made it mean that I’m not important nor good enough.
The truth was I was concerned about looking good.
The Importance of Overcoming Your Fears and Limitations
Even writing this – I was worried others may think that I’m vain, too full of myself. The “who am I?” question comes up.
And I know those who know me are going “Pfft!” on me and ask what the hell am I talking about.
Hang on a minute. I’m not asking for pity or empathy. Just for you and I, to acknowledge that we can’t run away from our thoughts.  We’re only human. 
The first thing we usually do is to put on our armor. 
One of my armors (I have many) is to hide and pretend everything is ok when it’s not.
I pretended I was ok that I’m not assisting the course. 
And you know what happened? Last-minute, they asked me to come on board something came up with the selected assistant. 
The Kind and Loving Person in me said Yes of course. 
Be a Yes.
Give up what you must.
Come from a place you are ready now.
BARON BAPTISTE
However, the child in me was feeling rather grumpy. 
What came up for me then was the Baptiste Yoga methodology of Coming from a place of love and support (there’s nothing to fix).
This methodology had helped me in getting over the fear of teaching a yoga class. It never dawned upon me that it is possible to also come from a place of love and support off the mat. 
Why Not? 
I have been holding back in my interaction with others. There’s something in the way of me creating this way of being. Like I’m generous to a certain point. I’m kind to a certain extent. I’m loving to a certain extent.
There is a ‘but’.
My 8-year-self showed up – the middle child who has to compete with the elder and younger sis for attention; she has to give in to the younger and take 2nd place to the elder. 
The 8 -year-old girl tells herself “I’m never going to be good enough.”
The feeling of “what about me”, even whilst I was assisting; in fact in many instances of my life. 
Now that I wrote that down – it sounds silly and childish.
I’m not 8 years old anymore. I’m an amazing human being with lots of heart to give. I want to lead a life from a place of loving-kindness and I want to give back by sharing more loving-kindness out there to the world.
I’m DEFINITELY good enough.
What’s possible when overcoming your fears and limitations?
And it starts with me interacting with every human being as if they are whole and complete, with 100% compassion and zero judgment.
It sounds tough, but I’m ready to try. 
Life is better without your fears and limitations.
Be in the Now and you will know How
 BARON BAPTISTE

Diva Rambling: Emily Post on Manners…

Emily Post to me epitomizes manners in the day when they meant something.  OLD School for sure but she is my guru on all topics manners and entertaining. I have a first edition copy of her book I cherish.  Here are a few of the tips attributed to her.  Enjoy….More to come….

Namaste, The Queen Cronista

Emily post on manners
Emily Post was a prolific American writer best known for writing about etiquette. In her early years, she received education at her home and later she finished her schooling from Miss Graham’s New York. She began her writing career after her sons were old enough to attend the boarding. Her writing, thoughts, articles and posts were about interior designing and architecture, serials and stories for famous magazines including, ‘The Century’, ‘Harper’s’ and ‘Scribner’s’. Her notable novels include, ‘Woven In The Tapestry’, ‘The Eagle’s Feather’, ‘Purple and Fine Linen’ and various others. Early in her career she also wrote humorous travel books. However, she is most renowned for her first book on etiquette titled, ‘Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home’. Following is a compilation of quotable quotations and sayings by Emily Post which have been curated from her writings, thoughts, books, novels, articles, work and life. Read through the famous and motivational quotes and thoughts by Emily Post.
Emily Post quotes Showing 1-23 of 23. “Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.” “Good manners reflect something from inside-an innate sense of consideration for others and respect for self.”
Any child can be taught to be beautifully behaved with no effort greater than quiet patience and perseverance, whereas to break bad habits once they are acquired is a Herculean task
Nothing is less important than which fork you use. Etiquette is the science of living. It embraces everything. It is ethics. It is honor.
Manners are made up of trivialities of deportment which can be easily learned if one does not happen to know them; manner is personality – the outward manifestation of one’s innate character and attitude toward life…. Etiquette must, if it is to be of more than trifling use, include ethics as well as manners. Certainly what one is, is of far greater importance than what one appears to be.
f you are hurt, whether in mind or body, don’t nurse your bruises. Get up and light-heartedly, courageously, good temperedly get ready for the next encounter. This is the only way to take life – this is also ‘playing’ the game!
To make a pleasant and friendly impression is not only good manners, but equally good business.
If God had intended for women to wear slacks, He would have constructed them differently
Manner is personality—the outward manifestation of one’s innate character and attitude toward life.
Houses without personality are a series of walled enclosures with furniture standing around in them. Other houses are filled with things of little intrinsic value, even with much that is shabby and yet they have that inviting atmosphere…
Manners are like primary colors, there are certain rules and once you have these you merely mix, i.e., adapt, them to meet changing situations.
The joy of joys is the person of light but unmalicious humor. If you know any one who is gay, beguiling and amusing, you will, if you are wise, do everything you can to make him prefer your house and your table to any other; for where he is, the successful party is also.
Never so long as you live, write a letter to a man – no matter who he is – that you would be ashamed to see in a newspaper above your signature.
Custom is a mutable thing; yet we readily recognize the permanence of certain social values. Graciousness and courtesy are never old-fashioned.
A lady never asks a gentleman to dance, or to go to supper with her.
An overdose of praise is like 10 lumps of sugar in coffee; only a very few people can swallow it.
Jealousy is the suspicion of one’s own inferiority
The letter we all love to receive is one that carries so much of the writer’s personality that she seems to be sitting beside us, looking at us directly and talking just as she really would, could she have come on a magic carpet, instead of sending her proxy in ink-made characters on mere paper.
To tell a lie in cowardice, to tell a lie for gain, or to avoid deserved punishment–are all the blackest of black lies.

Diva Musing:THE HEROINE’S JOURNEY…

MAUREEN MURDOCK, THE HEROINE’S JOURNEY
I read this one with interest. I agree and disagree but it is beautifully written. I’ve always been a warrior princess from the beginning. My Italian, Catholic, Southern father always said I was found in a cabbage patch because I wasn’t like other girls! I always asked…”What’s your point?” He’d walk away shaking his head and laughing. I once had a CEO I was reporting to at a fortune 500 company tell me that I got away with more in corporate America than anyone he’d ever known. Followed with …”but I say that in a good way!” So my comfort from an early age recognizes this article from a different perspective. It is definitely share-worthy. Namaste, The Queen Cronista….
When the heroine says no to the next heroic task, there is extreme discomfort…When a woman stops doing, she must learn how to simply be. Being is not a luxury, it is a discipline. The heroine must listen carefully to her true inner voice. That means silencing the other voices anxious to tell her what to do. She must be willing to hold the tension until the new form emerges…
MAUREEN MURDOCK, THE HEROINE’S JOURNEY
In mythology and fairy tales, the hero’s journey is the template that involves a hero who goes on an adventure,  wins a victory, and then returns transformed.
This is the general Rite of Passage structure – separation, facing and overcoming a challenge, and returning to the community transformed and recognized as different. For example, the child is now recognized as an adult, the boy is now recognized as a man.
This is the framework I learned when I trained in Rites of Passage facilitation because I learned from men about this male version of the story.
But guess what – it’s different for women and more complex. 
Your Heroine’s Journey
In our mythological stories and narratives, the woman is often simply waiting for her man to come home from his quest. In The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo, there is an example of this. Or she’s waiting for her man to come and save her, as in Sleeping Beauty.
And we’re supposed to be satisfied with this. Plus there’s the narrative that men will protect us from having to go on our own quest, our own journey. Yes, it’s changing, but it’s slow. My mother’s story and my grandmother’s story have unfolded in the last 85 years – and their story is mine also.
Maureen Murdock in 1990, was the first to offer an alternative for women to Joseph Campbell’s famous “Hero’s Journey” narrative. So here’s the outline of the Heroine’s Journey as introduced by the wonderful Ms. Murdock. 
Embarking on Your Own Heroine’s Journey
First, there’s the rejection of the feminine. Even in the era of the housewife, the nurturing mother was not necessarily present. Women were often unfulfilled and resentful and were definitely not celebrated. Nurturing affectionate love towards children was often withheld.
So the daughter rejects the mother and idealizes the father – the hero. She vies for male attention and approval.
She struggles with self-doubt, the voice of the inner critic, and works to overcome her internalization of the myth of female inferiority.
She then undertakes the male version of the hero’s journey. She faces challenges and achieves success in the form of grades, recognition, power, money, status, etc. In this competitive and individualized patriarchal world,, we live in – she ultimately wants male approval.
At some point, she realizes she’s not satisfied. She can’t shake this underlying feeling that she’s not enough. She never gets the approval or recognition she seeks, or it never satisfies. So she continues to strive for perfection and achievement, and her inner male aspect drives her forward towards more competition and more success. Until at some point she resists.
When does the heroine’s journey begin?
The heroine’s journey truly begins when she learns to say NO to this madness when she learns at some point that money and success and external achievement will never fill her. She becomes truly strong as a woman when she realizes she is enough as a woman and has nothing to prove. She withdraws from the world into herself.
She’s seen as depressed and mad for saying no to what society tells her she’s supposed to want. She isolates herself and learns to connect with herself, her body, her intuition, her cycles, her sexuality, and her true nature.
She learns to value the feminine – the being-ness, the descent, the darkness. She discovers her worth so she now has nothing to prove. She learns to truly know her way with the guidance of her body’s intuition.
She grieves the prior loss of connection to her own body, to her sisters, her mother, to all of the women who came before her, and to the true mother of us all, the Earth herself.
She works to reconnect with all of these women. She heals the wounds that stemmed from her early rejection of women and from others’ rejection of her.
She learns to embrace and accept that other female figure in our mythology, that of the evil step-mother, the hag, the madwoman. This is the archetypal woman we see in stories such as Cinderella and Hansel and Gretel.
But the feminine needs the masculine. She does want to be purposeful and satisfied with her work. She still wants to strive and achieve and challenge herself, so she nurtures this masculine aspect rather than reject it completely. She invites and welcomes balance.
Women need to be in healthy relationships with men for our society to be healthy. And although there are the men who reject her and abuse her, who don’t see her worth, who are disconnected from women in general and from the feminine in themselves.
These are not the men she needs. So she finds the men who can relate to her in her power and in her truth, who can themselves be powerful but not overpowering.
She finds the Man With Heart within herself and she finds those men around her because they do exist!