Nice Things Each Day
The nice man at the coffee shop bought me a coffee smoothie the other day. He came in and I said good morning and he decided I should have another and told them to make it and he’d pay. I didn’t need one but I graciously accepted.
It is amazing how interacting with other people can change their demeanor in the moment. He came in looking sad and down. I cheerfully said hello and told him one of the favorite sandwiches they offered, that I liked, when he asked me. His demeanor changed and he started smiling and stood taller. I heard him telling a man he knew he was a vet who was alone and would take his purchase home and eat it by himself.
I would have offered to have him sit with me but he and his acquaintance kept chatting while they waited for their food and I didn’t want to interrupt. He seems to come in the same time most days. Next time I’ll pay for whatever he gets before he arrives and have them tell him its been take care of already.
My point is doing something nice for others each day makes them and us feel good. I don’t have a lot but I can be as generous as possible with what I do have. My wrap on each day before meditating is to find one miracle in each day and several things to be grateful for in the day. There is always something. Diva challenge. Try to find those things and tell us what you are finding. It’s like a treasure hunt for all of us reading and sharing. Love you, Divas, Namaste, The Queen Cronista
Slaying the Giants.
I recently wrote about slaying the giants/demons in our lives. You’ll know them, they may pose to others as angelic good citizens/religionists. However, they will constantly have a herd of people who appear different to their sanctimonious, holier than thou diatribe; who they they throw slings and arrows at. They then apologize and blame it on you. You know them because we’ve posted so many articles on narcissists and bullies.
I realize that my whole life I’ve let them in trying to be a good Diva, and repeatedly I get zinged. I allow them to steal from my energy bank account again and again. Getting out and peopling with people who need support and caring in their live means so much more and is more rewarding to the spirit than letting these tosh-pots in your daily life.
My point is…lets start choosing more wisely let the good in and put up a force-field of protection against the giants/demons. Love the tribe who appreciates… you and care for them. You deserve the best when you people from a place of love. Namaste, The Queen Cronista
Surviving the Abyss
Knowing what I know about the rocky path I’ve had to walk, I’ve had many dark nights of the soul that have burnt me to ashes only to see me rise like a phoenix and try again. When I look a some people I ask myself if I knew them could I walk a mile or even a yard in their foot steps.
While life has kicked my backside often, I realize I’ve earned part of it by my on transgressions. When I feel like I’m drowning in a bottomless pit I know to keep treading and I’ll eventually come to the edge of freedom. The freedom that gives new breath to life. The freedom fought for by so many ancestors and warriors I can never thank in this lifetime. I know being able to fight and survive those places so dark I’ve had to spit in death’s eye. Then I breathe, because I can again, and I am grateful for the hundreds of miles I’ve walked in the abyss and survived. Namaste, The Queen Cronista
I always tell my besties that the best one are all winos, weirdos, and pervies….I mean that in a most loving way. When you have friends that match your weirdness and uniqueness, you are so blessed. A brigade of warriors who understand each other and have each others “6” at all times. Live Doesn’t get better than that.
People tell me that I’m impossible. They tell me I’m scary, they tell me I’m different and they’ve never met anyone like me. One of the best ever was…”you are the most predictably unpredictable person I’ve ever known.” I say ….”And your point?” I can’t remember who said “be yourself everybody else is taken…” but I like it. If you cannot be you, move to a new venue and get a new brigade. Life is too short to be around a bunch of prats who have no vision or sense of humor. You can still be a kind, gentle, caring person and be weird. Besides it’s all who is using their definition of weird in that moment. I usually find that the person accusing/judging me to be weird is weird to my definition of weird. Its all relative. LOL!
Get out there and spread you sparkle of weirdness, sit with the nerdy bunch, find your tribe and love them. Let no one but the Karma Cops stop you…them you must acknowledge. Keep you flame glowing the world needs it. Namaste, The Queen Cronista
What is an Existential Crisis? (Definition)
Put simply, an existential crisis is a period in life where a person is at a crossroads and is questioning their entire reality. They may wonder what the meaning of their life is and whether they have a higher purpose. They may wonder whether life itself has meaning or is just a random, chaotic product of chance. And as a result, they may suffer from tremendous anxiety, depression, isolation, and feelings of being lost. Also Know as “A Dark Night of The Soul.”
We go in an out of these crises in our life and usually emerge a better self. Do not fear they always pass. Some take longer than others but they always pass. The negative people in our lies vanish as we raise our vibration. Only when we get stuck in the “Bog of Eternal Stench” do we feel hopeless. The Karma Cops always have a way of working it out if we keep faith and believe in the power of the Universe to have our backs.
Look at a bad day as the new shift in light is on the way and you only need to meditate in peace and wait. Namaste, The Queen Cronista
Working with a personal trainer has left me with a rather forced interest in updating my lifestyle. Below are some tips you may already know. Some of these are a good booster shot thoughts for me.
Namaste, The Queen Cronista
Losing belly fat is not that easy. Anyone who’s ever tried it can attest to that. That’s because belly fat is stubborn and difficult to shift due to the higher number of beta fat cells that are not that responsive to the fat burning process. Aside from the aesthetic aspect, belly fat can also be a risk factor for serious diseases such as type 2 diabetes, heart disease and even cancer.
f you’re struggling with excess fat around your waistline, just know that we’ve got you covered! Here are the 6 golden rules to getting rid of belly fat for good and becoming the proud owner of a flat stomach. Make these changes and you will be able to bravely display your results!
Sugar? No, thank you
I’m sure you’ve heard it before but I’ll say it again. Sugar is bad. It is considered public enemy number one with serious detrimental effects on metabolic health.
Sugar consists of glucose and fructose, the latter only metabolized by the liver. When the liver is overburdened by large amounts of fructose, it turns it into fat. Belly fat, more often than not.
Captain’s tip: Try to reduce the amount of sugar you consume as much as possible and even eliminate sugary beverages altogether. Also, read labels carefully because sugar can lurk where we least expect it.
Make sleep your ally
You might not see any connection but numerous studies link sleep with weight issues, including belly fat. For example, one such study pointed out that individuals sleeping less than five hours per night are more likely to gain abdominal fat than those sleeping 6-8 hours. More than belly fat, sleeping issues can contribute to diabetes, obesity and heart disease.
That’s why quality sleep is extremely important not only in terms of weight loss but for your overall health. During sleep, your body adapts and recovers from the strenuous activities during the day by secreting important hormones that maintain you fit and energetic.
Captain’s tip: Relaxing activities before sleep or even sleep supplements, with a health care provider’s recommendation, of course, can be useful in facilitating a good night’s sleep and preventing belly fat.
Neutralize your stress
Don’t worry, be happy! Wouldn’t we all want to live by that phrase? Unfortunately, in today’s modern society, stress and worries are not that simple to get rid of. But maybe we should try harder. Because getting rid of stress also takes us one step closer to getting rid of belly fat.
Stress is responsible for you adding inches to your waistline due to the adrenal glands that produce cortisol, aka the stress hormone. Studies revealed that high levels of cortisol make you hungrier and promote belly fat gain.
Captain’s tip: To reduce the abdominal fat, spend as much time as you can involved in pleasurable activities. Reading, practicing yoga, walking or whatever unwinds you and neutralizes the stress in your life. And I’m also gonna let you in on a little secret: laughter is the best medicine!
Don’t forget the all-mighty protein
Although contested by some, one of the most effective evidence-based tools to losing fat on the long term is to increase the protein intake.
Many studies show that people with a higher protein intake have less belly fat compared to those with a lower protein intake. In addition, it reduces cravings by 60%, speeds up the metabolism and reduces your daily calorie intake by 440 calories. To this end, many people adopt the Paleo diet which focuses on the consumption of lean protein and whole foods.
Captain’s tip: Aim to add more protein into your diet by eating high-protein foods such as whole eggs, fish, nuts and meat. If you lack the time to prepare a healthy, protein-based meal, then you can always increase your protein intake with the help of quality protein supplements. Your waistline will end up looking great either way.
Eat nutrient-dense foods
Apart from the high-protein diet that specialists often recommend, your body also needs many important micronutrients to preserve its energy and stay in good shape.
Generally, when energy levels are low, you feel the need to eat. And it’s usually the type of consolation foods that are high in empty calories, with no nutritional value, which only contribute to excessive abdominal fat.
Captain’s tip: To prevent this, it’s best to consume nutrient-dense foods , which have positive effects on leptin sensitivity, thyroid hormones and help your body detox properly. They will also help you provide your body with the essential nutrients it needs but still maintain a proper calorie count.
Don’t leave out exercise
Abs are made in the kitchen but that doesn’t mean that exercise does not have a huge impact. We all know it does. But before you get your hopes up and start doing abs like crazy, you should know that spot reduction alone is less likely to get you rid of belly fat.
However, a combination of cardio and strength training is by far more powerful and effective, as proven by studies. For instance, one study published in the Journal of Strength and Conditioning Research showed that individuals relying on an aerobic and strength training combo registered a significant decrease in visceral fat and increase in muscle mass.
Captain’s tip: The focus should be on frequency and duration of such exercises rather than on their intensity. In addition, the benefits of exercise extend beyond belly fat loss and weight control to many more areas of our lives.
Namaste, The Queen Cronista
I am hearing so many people tell me they are gloomy this summer. It always reminds me of the seasons of the Dark Night of the Soul. I offer you a perspective today to ponder and hopefully help with your journey.
7 Omens That Herald the Dark Night of the Soul
Out of suffering have emerged the strongest Souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. – Khalil Gibran
Although we are all born with Souls, not all of us know how to fully embody them and integrate them into our human experience. The truth is that in our modern world, we live Ego-centrically rather than Soul-centrically.
Mystics, saints, and shamans throughout history have referred to our struggle as humans in different ways – but they all pointed to the need for us to consciously grow into our divine potential.
One of these people was Saint John of the Cross, a Spanish monk who coined the term “Dark Night of the Soul” (“Noche Oscura” the name of one of his poems) based on his own mystical experience.
What is the Dark Night of the Soul?
The Dark Night of the Soul is a period of utter spiritual desolation, disconnection, and emptiness in which one feels totally separated from the Divine. Those who experience the Dark Night feel completely lost, hopeless, and consumed with melancholy. The Dark Night of the Soul can be likened to severe spiritual depression.
7 Omens That Herald the Dark Night of the Soul
“I am a forest, and a night of dark trees: but he who is not afraid of my darkness, will find banks full of roses under my cypresses. – Friedrich Nietzsche, Thus Spoke Zarathustra
“What’s the difference between the dark night and depression?” you may still wonder.
Even back in the 16th century, Saint John of the Cross himself was at great pains to distinguish the Dark Night from mere melancholia (depression).
After all, the symptoms of the Dark Night of the Soul are not that different from depression. But while depression is psychological/neurological/biological, the Dark Night heralds a deeply occurring change within known as spiritual transformation.
Here are 7 “omens” that you might be going through a Dark Night of the Soul:
You feel a deep sense of sadness, which often verges on despair (this sadness is often triggered by the state of your life, humanity, and/or the world as a whole)
You feel an acute sense of unworthiness
You have the constant feeling of being lost or “condemned” to a life of suffering or emptiness
You possess a painful feeling of powerlessness and hopelessness
Your will and self-control is weakened, making it difficult for you to act
You lack interest and find no joy in things that once excited you
You crave for the loss of something intangible; a longing for a distant place or to “return home” again
The ultimate difference between depression and the Dark Night of the Soul is that depression is usually self-centric, whereas the Dark Night is philosophical in nature and is accompanied by existential reflections such as “Why am I here?” and “What is my purpose?”
Also, when depression ends, not much changes in your life in terms of your beliefs, values, and habits. However, when the Dark Night of the Soul ends, everything in your life is transformed, and life becomes wondrous again
Namaste, The Queen Cronista