Diva Ranting:Pondering….

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” Lao Tzu 

The Queen has been pondering kindness more and more lately. I can vaguely remember my child self wanting to be kind to everyone and everything. I cried at observing what I considered unkindness to others or even nature. Somewhere along the way I began to set boundaries to protect that childlike kindness from hurt. I worked for fortune 500 companies for 42 years and that toughened her so much that everything began to become matter of fact and clinical to me.

Now I am reclaiming that still small child within to remind me to be kinder and gentler. I think sometimes most of us need that check in with our souls. We know when our vibration has sunk into a lower dimension and we know we need to do something about it. Knowing and doing are two different things.

That’s not to say the sassy mountain woman is totally in check…and she never will be! I wanted to pull out my glock and shoot the tires out of at least three of the idiots driving with a 2 mile an hour brain, at 10 mph with their car… and unable to decide if they should ever go at a 4 way stop. I know you know the feeling! No amount of screaming “Zen Queen, Zen! Helped in any way.

So I struggle as do some of you with the self that is a Warrior vs. The Zen Master. I’ve miles to go before I sleep. I hope you are not in the same boat. Love and Light, The Queen Cronista

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Diva Musing: Current Mood…

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Just for Shits and Giggles
OK, so I’m on a salty diva rampage today.  Some moron parked so close to my vehicle I couldn’t get in.  I waited awhile and got all schpilkes, so I had to crawl from the back of my SUV to the drives seat.  Then I had to decide weather I should wait and attack the manner-less troll or leave and key the car before I drove off.  Since I didn’t have bail money I went on.
Ever have one of those days where you wake up all cheery and swear to the Universe you will be a better version of yourself today and boom, something like this happens right out of the shoot? I hate when that happens.  I was once told to cancel my evil thoughts by saying cancel or escape and then think of a positive thought.  Who the hell came up with that one?  I need to vent a little to get rid of my disdain for “stupid people”!  Only then can I resolve within myself by meditating and breathing.  
I always encourage the peaceful way through most things.  However, since…”you can’t fix stupid with duct tape” (don’t know who said it; but I love them) sometime you just have to pitch a hissy fit.  Do you find these days it’s happening more and more or is it just me? 
Anyway, I feel an occasional venting, for a legitimate reason,…”stupidity” is good for the soul. Have your hissy fit, my darlings, and move on.  Don’t guilt yourself …it was someone else’s stupidity, after all that triggered it all.  Go have a quiet moment or even better a hot fudge sundae and bask in the glory of setting a  boundary and the treat you most certainly earned.  Namaste, The Queen Cronista

 

Diva Ranting: Intolerant Behavior is NOT OK…

I spent many years in workforce’s where harassing behaviors were laughed at and encouraged.  Physical abuse and verbal were the norm of the day; mostly by men.  I myself was lucky, everyone knew I was the witch from hell, and not to mess with me.  But some of my colleagues were not so lucky, nor did they possess the assertiveness to stand up for themselves.  I found myself mouthing off to idiots more than I should.  I didn’t care what it did to my career.  Fortunately the big bosses did not find it a problem.  It was the little men with…shall we say little egos that were usually at fault.  And, sadly, women who wanted the show the men they had balls bigger than church bells, were a nemesis to everyone as well. You have the right to be treated as a human in all environments (unless you act like a wild beast; a topic for another blog). Here are a few coping mechanisms I think you’ll like.  Love yourself enough to use these or other you have.  Please share if you have a good one.  It will help a lot of people.  Love and Light, Namaste, The Queen Cronista…
Intolerant Behavior is NOT OK; Anywhere or at Any Time…
I’m OK, you’re OK!, Change your thoughts, change your life. You become what you think. These are all forms popular quotes from all the motivational speakers ever. For the most part I think that most all cognitive behavioral therapy throws the burden of abnormal behavior on us. If you change how you feel you will change your world! You will no longer feel as depressed or anxious. Don’t get me wrong. I do believe that there are certain responsibilities for the souls who are needing to just get over it. When the problems are under your personal control then often discipline, commitment and dedication to a thing is all that is required.
However, when the problems originate outside of your control, then changing your thinking can be like stepping into a horrid terror film where you start having to attempt persuade yourself things are OK when your spirit tells you they are not. How does this improve anyone’s mental well being? It doesn’t! So, when things are out of your personal wheelhouse, and you are sinking into the bog of eternal anxiety and depression, what might you do? I am not seeking to be the guru of all things wonderful. I merely wish to suggest some things to place in your psyche’s toolbox that may help you individually.
1) If the threat is real see what help you can get. It could be that the police, medical assistance, 911, etc. There may be support groups, hotlines, or shelters out there to lend support. If one is dealing with a significant threat, it is not nonsense to feel anxious, fearful, or depressed. Be clear that your feelings are totally appropriate in the moment. Find an approach were you can see them and where you can to try and avoid being overwhelmed by them. Work escape from it – you won’t be able to think clearly until the problem is dealt with.
2) Now risk asses what’s going on. If the source is primarily functioning as a trigger mechanism and isn’t a threat in its own, then go for meditation. See if you can summon the courage to look at the mechanics ; can you change anything? If the threat is in the past and not in the current moment…that can help. See if you can gain a new outlook on it; talk to someone if necessary. The choices are yours at this point; see if you can choose wisely now.
3) Define the specific problem. Tie down exactly what is making you feel uneasy. If that’s triggering you into other problematic things, acknowledge it, but do not focus on it. This can trigger more than it can help. Take yourself and the situation seriously.
4) An ongoing threat, it is going to take a toll no matter what. Examples such as domestic abuse, workplace bullying, or any other tortuous act created by society and political structures. Sometimes there is no ‘away’ to escape. As the person suffering it should not be your responsibility to fix intolerant behaviors. Inability to cope is not a sign of weakness or illness. It is a natural, response to something inhuman. There are agencies to report it to. You need to take steps to remove the threat or yourself or it may impact your health long-term.
5) If you can get away from this intolerant behavior, do so, Get whatever safe space you can and you will eventually calm down and be able to breathe again.
6 Should your risk analysis determine that the problem is happening right now, then how you respond will depend a lot on the problem itself. Usually you must deal with a threat or remove yourself immediately. If you feel the threat is a little one, then meditating on how it makes you feel, or securing help to deal with it may suffice.
Just know that if something panics you and you seem to loose your sense of reason, then try and find someone trustworthy and knowledgeable on how to work it through with you.
There are many who live with panic and fear. There is almost always someone or some institution nearby to lend a helping hand. Learn to use your resources and get the help you need to move on. Bullying and harassing workplaces are NOT OK. Namaste, The Queen Cronista

Diva Ranting: Southern Cuss Phrases…

You may not know how it is with many Southerners. We can get just as incensed as anyone else, but we try to stay polite about it. That’s why our Southern grannies taught us “cuss words” to use, like “I Swan!” and “Land sakes alive!”

Here are a few things you might hear Southerners yell in anger, frustration or in  traffic.  Did I forget any? 

There’s a tree stump in a Louisiana swamp with a higher IQ!

Blow your nose you’ll get more out of it! Meaning: I hear you but I don’t really care.

You’re dumb as a box of rocks! Meaning the other driver is really dump.

Welll, don’t rush on my account! Meaning: You are driving too slow.

Sure looks like somebody opened the floodgates. Meaning: Traffic is really heavy.

Son of a biscuit eater! Meaning: Exclamation/Negative name calling.

If leather were brains, you wouldn’t have enough to saddle a Junebug! Meaning: you are really Stupid!

Son of a Motherless Goat! Meaning: Negative slur/insult

What in tarnation? Meaning: What the Heck

What the Sam Hill? Meaning: What the heck are you doing?

You don’t have the sense God gave a goose. Meaning: The other person is stupid.

Move over Papaw! Meaning: You are as slow as grandfather.

Grandma was slow but she was old! Meaning: You are as slow as Grandma.

Land Sakes alive! Meaning: negative exclamation for stupidity.

You don’t know a widget from a hole in the ground. Meaning: Stupid

You are as slow as the seven year itch! Meaning: Annoyingly Slow

Holy Mother of Pearl! Meaning: Negative Exclamation.

Dagnabbit! Meaning: Substitute Cuss Word

You can’t walk and chew chewing gum at the same time. Meaning: other person is uncoordinated.

Dagnabbit if I sent you to lunch I’d have to completely retrain you. Meaning: You’re hopelessly useless.

Diva Ranting: Holier than Thou…

Guilty even if innocent….

Yours truly was confronted by someone still incensed from something I was supposed to have done in November 2018. I never heard of it and when I was shown what I was supposed to have posted on a the sacred website it was shown to be me but I didn’t do it. Those who have followed The Crones for anytime know we don’t give a horses ass about your stuff. We admit our craziness and faults and we never intend to intentionally offend anyone. But here it was full blown. The person said she was so mad she wanted to slap me. My response if you felt that way you should have, that day, not festered on it for four months before telling me; even if I was guilty until proven innocent in your eyes.

My point in this is, that in this modern world of chaos where it seems more and more people wake up invested in being incensed, we can’t win. If you don’t have the tits up to come and look me in the eye and speak your mind we cannot resolve an issue. With some, so cloaked in their own self righteousness, you will never resolve it like adults. Mother Teresa would say…love them anyway and move on (or words to that effect).

These days we will always have those cloak and dagger folks out there maligning us without our knowing. I don’t care but you may. Anyway, don’t let anyone rain on your parade. If you focus on darkness you get more darkness or even the devil himself. I choose the light of saying oh well, don’t sweat the petty stuff and don’t pet the sweaty stuff LOL!

Don’t get us wrong. We are salty old crones with hearts of gold but as fierce as any warrior on the planet if you take us on. Don’t get me wrong….I love pitching a good “hissy fit” for a good cause. Right is Right!

Soooooooooooooooooooooo…

I’ve decided that since no matter what We do somebody’s going to pick us apart every day. Rather than have to listen to a diatribe of uneducated people’s tripe and bologna, let’s just post our own list. They can check off the ones they want to pick on that day and feel fulfilled.
> We/me and my peeps still won’t give a hoot and everybody’s happy LOL. I’ll start:  

> Please place a check mark next to every insult you want me to feel bad about today…
> She’s fat
> She wears too make up
> She overdresses
> She looks me in the eyes and intimidates me.
> She’s a salty old crone.

> She makes me face things head on; I hate that.

>She’s blunt and says what she thinks; makes me uncomfortable
> She think she’s the Queen of the Cosmos?￰
> She’s an intellectual snob

> She’s mean to mean people right back!!!
> She scares me
> I hate her
Here’s a few for starters… Knock yourselves out LOL… me and my peeps will be doing our yoga and not really caring at all. My personal Facebook posse liked the idea.

Diva Pushing: Buy Tickets Now…

The film is in the can and being edited.  We are so excited to bring you this years Murder Mystery Dinner Theater…..

The entire Show is written, produced, filmed, and Chefed by our cast and crew at Gateway Christian School .  All proceeds go to the Gateway Christian School.  

Buy tickets online at http://www.binghamtown.org; click Gateway School and the icon is in the upper right hand corner. 

MURDER MYSTERY DINNER THEATER

A MURDER AT MAGNOLIA MANOR

WHEN: Saturday, March 30, from 6:00 P.M. to 8:00 P.M. (Save the Date)

WHERE: Magnolia Manor Grand Dining Hall (A/K/A Binghamtown Fellowship Hall/back lower level);

WHAT: Murder Mystery and Dinner for one price. A 4-course dinner with fun and entertainment in the form of a Murder Mystery Theater. Seating is limited so secure your seat and buy your tickets now.

TICKET PRICE: $30.00 Adult Only Pricing

(includes admission and 4 course dinner)

YOU MUST HAVE YOUR TICKET STUB FOR ENTRY AND GREAT DOOR PRIZES

No ONE will be allowed entry without a ticket

Multiple Door Prizes and Grand Prize usually exceed the price of your ticket if you win!!!!!!

Please Call the High School\Judy Suhr for Reservations 714-235-6591

PUTTING THE FUN IN FUN-DRAISER

You can also pay by credit card for tickets at www.binghamtown.org, Click on donations OR Gateway School and the button is in the upper RIGHT hand corner of the page.

Murder Mystery

Dinner Theater

LAST DAY TO BUY TICKETS March 15th, 2019

May be a Clue!

Maybe Not???

Add us on Snapchat at: magnolia.manor

Diva Beaming: Murder at Magnolia Manor, Murder Mystery Dinner Theater…

The film is in the can and being edited.  We are so excited to bring you this years Murder Mystery Dinner Theater…..

The entire Show is written, produced, filmed, and Chefed by our cast and crew at Gateway Christian School .  All proceeds go to the Gateway Christian School.  

Buy tickets at http://www.binghamtown.org; click Gateway School and the icon is in the upper right hand corner.

MURDER MYSTERY DINNER THEATER

A MURDER AT MAGNOLIA MANOR

WHEN: Saturday, March 30, from 6:00 P.M. to 8:00 P.M. (Save the Date)

WHERE: Magnolia Manor Grand Dining Hall (A/K/A Binghamtown Fellowship Hall/back lower level);

WHAT: Murder Mystery and Dinner for one price. A 4-course dinner with fun and entertainment in the form of a Murder Mystery Theater. Seating is limited so secure your seat and buy your tickets now.

TICKET PRICE: $30.00 Adult Only Pricing

(includes admission and 4 course dinner)

YOU MUST HAVE YOUR TICKET STUB FOR ENTRY AND GREAT DOOR PRIZES

No ONE will be allowed entry without a ticket

Multiple Door Prizes and Grand Prize usually exceed the price of your ticket if you win!!!!!!

Please Call the High School\Judy Suhr for Reservations 714-235-6591

PUTTING THE FUN IN FUN-DRAISER

You can also pay by credit card for tickets at www.binghamtown.org, Click on donations OR Gateway School and the button is in the upper RIGHT hand corner of the page.

Murder Mystery

Dinner Theater

LAST DAY TO BUY TICKETS March 15th, 2019

May be a Clue!

Maybe Not???

Add us on Snapchat at: magnolia.manor