Diva Tasting: Ginger Glazed Mahi Mahi

Ginger Glazed Mahi Mahi

Ingredients

  • 3 Tablespoons Honey
  • 3 Tablespoons Soy Sauce
  • 4 Tablespoons Balsamic Vinegar
  • 3 Teaspoons Grated Fresh Ginger Root
  • 4 Cloves Garlic, Minced
  • 4 Teaspoons Olive Oil
  • 8 (6 Ounce) Mahi Mahi Fillets
  • Sea Salt And Pepper To Taste
  • 4 Tablespoon Vegetable Oil

Directions

  1. In a shallow glass dish, stir together the honey, soy sauce, balsamic vinegar, ginger, garlic and olive oil. Season fish fillets with salt and pepper, and place them into the dish turn in dish to coat. If the fillets have skin on them, place them skin side down. Cover, and refrigerate for 20 minutes to marinate.
  2. Heat vegetable oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Remove fish from the dish, and reserve marinade. Fry fish for 4 to 6 minutes on each side, turning only once, until fish flakes easily with a fork. Remove fillets to a serving platter and keep warm.
  3. Pour reserved marinade into the skillet, and heat over medium heat until the mixture reduces to a glaze consistently. Spoon glaze over fish, and serve.
  4. Serve with Basmati Rice, Spinach Mango Salad with ginger vinaigrette, and lavosh.
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Diva Tasting: Pan Crusted Halibut…

Pan Crusted Halibut..

Ingredients

  • 1 Cup Panko Bread Crumbs

  • 1/3 Cup Chopped Fresh Flat Leaf Parsley

  • 1/4 Cup Chopped Fresh Dill

  • 1/4 Cup Chopped Fresh Chives

  • 2 Tablespoons Extra-Virgin Olive Oil

  • 4 Tablespoons Melted Butter

  • 1 Teaspoon Finely Grated Lemon Zest

  • 1 Teaspoon Sea Salt

  • 1/4 Teaspoon Ground Black Pepper

  • 6 (6 Ounce) Halibut Fillets

Directions

  1. Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F.

  2. Line a baking sheet with foil.

  3. Combine panko bread crumbs, parsley, dill, chives, extra-virgin olive oil, butter, lemon zest, sea salt, and black pepper in a bowl. Taste and adjust with more salt if desired.

  4. Rinse halibut fillets and pat dry with a paper towel.

  5. Place halibut fillets onto the prepared baking sheet.

  6. Generously spoon the herbed crumbs over the fish, and lightly press crumb mixture onto each fillet.

  7. Bake in the preheated oven until crumb topping is lightly browned and fish flakes easily with a fork, 10 to 15 minutes.

  8. Serve with lemon sauteed broccoli, pear and feta salad, and rolls.

Diva Musing: Daydreaming….

WHERE THE ACTION IS…

I disagree. Einstein discovered the theory of relativity looking out a window of a train. Daydreaming is necessary to knock the cobwebs out of the attic of the brain…however, here is food for thought from a blogger with a different opinion.

https://betterlifecoachingblog.com/

My two golden retrievers love coming into my office with me.

I have a nice, wide, glass sliding door that they can look out of and inspect the entire street.  They sit there, ears pricked up, taking full advantage of the opportunity to watch the neighbors (and their dogs).

It doesn’t matter to them what is going on inside the office, it’s what is happening outside that grabs their attention.

We can’t afford to fall for that trap.

It’s easy to become obsessed with what is happening outside of our control.

It’s easy to become distracted by social media and the bombardment of constant information.

It’s easy to compare our current state with the seemingly perfect circumstances of others.

It’s easy to make excuses based on external events and the actions of the people around us. But there’s work to be done. There’s a mission to accomplish.

There are goals to be achieved. And that requires focus, discipline and your undivided attention.

So stop looking out the window, that’s not where the action is.

Diva Tasting: Shrimp Surprise…

Shrimp Surprise…

Ingredients

  • 1 Cup Dry Bread Crumbs

  • 8 Tablespoons Melted Butter

  • 8 Ounces Shredded Gruyere Cheese

  • 4 Ounces Shredded Manchego Cheese

  • 1 Cup Mayonnaise

  • 1/2 Cup Dry White Wine

  • Sea Salt And Pepper To Taste

  • 1 Tablespoon Chopped Fresh Flat Leaf Parsley

  • 2 Pounds Jumbo Shrimp, Deveined

  • 1 Pound Cremini Mushrooms, Sliced

  • 1/2 Cup Chopped Shallots

Directions

  1. In small mixing bowl, toss the bread crumbs with 2 tablespoon of melted butter; mix thoroughly and set aside.

  2. In another small bowl, combine the cheese, mayonnaise, wine and parsley; mix thoroughly and set aside. Salt and Pepper to Taste

  3. In a skillet over medium heat, saute shrimp until just pink in 3 tablespoons of melted butter until opaque. Transfer to a plate lined with paper towels. Preheat broiler for medium/high heat.

  4. Reheat the skillet over medium heat and cook the mushrooms and shallots in 3 tablespoons of melted butter until tender. Add cheese mixture and return the shrimp to the skillet. Cook until heated through and the cheese is melted. Spoon the mixture into individual ramekins or pour the whole mixture into a 9×13 inch baking dish. Sprinkle the top with bread crumb mixture.

  5. Broil in a preheated broiler 6 inches from heat for 2 to 4 minutes or until browned.

  6. Serve With garden salad with lemon vinaigrette, garlic toast and steamed broccoli with lemon.

Diva Musing: Our Inner World….

I find my self being a little judgy smurf lately.  I’m sick of wining, holier than thou personalities who make me want to puke.  I’m into you being you.  Me being me and a happy acceptance is in there somewhere.  But if you are a wining complaining, over entitled butt hole, then screw this crap…I’m moving to Narnia!  I found this food for thought by a couple of writers that may help us analyze our current state of mind (if you are suffering the same condition as me right now).  It’s a little long but thought provoking.  I like t learn new perspectives each day.  I hope this is good for you too.                     Namaste, The Queen Cronista…

Are You Secretly Judgmental Of Others? Why It’s An Important Clue About Your Inner World

By Katie & Gay Hendricks

Do you notice that you often secretly judge others?

For example, your sister tells you about a new car she bought and you think, She can’t possibly afford that car on her salary. She’s so irresponsible about money. Or your partner leaves his dirty dishes in the sink before heading out to meet his friends and you think, He’s so lazy and sloppy. It drives me bananas. Throughout the day, every day, you find yourself silently criticizing others.

My co-worker at work has gotten scatter-brained… my neighbor is too nosy… my friend is too self-absorbed with posting selfies on social media…

What does this all mean?

Are you surrounded by people who don’t have their act together?

Is society just falling apart?

Or is this a clue about something way deeper and way more fundamental about YOU? How Your Relationship With Others Brings Up The Next Biggest Thing You Need To Learn About Yourself

When we judge others or feel our “buttons being pushed” by the things they say and do, we may actually be projecting our feelings onto others.

We are accusing others of the very things we disown or reject about ourselves.

Here’s how it works…

Let’s say you have a fear of rejection that stems from something far back in childhood. More than likely, you’re unaware of this fear. You haven’t yet acknowledged it. Or you know about it, but reject that it’s an issue. Your subconscious mind is aware of it, though. And that part of your mind will always seek opportunities to work out this old issue. It will lead you into situations where you can bring that fear into your awareness.

In other words, you will enter into relationships with people who will “trigger” that fear or unacknowledged emotion inside you. You will attract a relationship where your partner will withdraw, act cold, make plans with his or her friends instead of with you, have a hobby they love that doesn’t (or can’t) involve you, etc. Instead of causing you to face and accept your fear, their behavior will cause you to be secretly judgmental or critical.

You don’t think, Hmm, I’m feeling afraid that he’s going to abandon me and I’ll be alone again. Instead you think, He never spends time with me, he’s off having fun instead of fixing these things around the house, he’s wasting money playing golf all day when he should be saving money and spending the day with me.

Another example – let’s say that you consider yourself a neat, tidy and financially conservative person. You keep your home and car clean and you never spend more than you make. But deep down, you’re really someone who wishes they could forgo responsibility for a while, kick up their feet and be self-indulgent for a change. However, you don’t want to admit that to yourself. It’s just not something you accept about yourself, for whatever reason. Maybe in childhood you were rejected for being that way.

Your creative mind will actually draw you into situations where you are around people who seem sloppy, irresponsible and flaky. And instead of admitting that you’re a little bit like them, you will find yourself secretly complaining about them.

What Do You Need To Accept About Yourself In Order To Love Yourself?

When you don’t, or can’t, acknowledge your feelings or accept something about yourself, it’s a sign that deep down, you don’t love yourself. And if you don’t love yourself, you’ll never feel completely at peace with yourself and the world around you.

You’ll always find something to complain about, and the people in your life will always seem to be less than perfect, because YOU think you’re less than perfect. Unless you can learn to love yourself, and accept yourself and your feelings, you’ll never be able to be fully loved by anyone else, either.

How This One Breakthrough Can Change Your Whole Life

There was a time in my life many years ago when I so badly wanted love and acceptance, but all I did was criticize my (ex) wife and accuse her of being nit-picky and too sensitive.

I had several other unhappy relationships in my 20s and 30s before I met Katie. I thought women were too critical and too obsessed with talking about feelings. I didn’t fully believe them when they said they loved me or wanted me to be happy. The truth was, I was out of touch with my own feelings. I wasn’t “sensitive” enough to what my mind and heart wanted and needed. Therefore, I projected those unacknowledged aspects of myself onto others. I was secretly judgmental.

It wasn’t until I had a major breakthrough in my life where I finally learned how to love myself that all that changed. I met and fell in love with Katie, lost 100 pounds and exploded my career.I had discovered something transformational. That’s why everything that Katie and I teach is rooted in the fundamental concept of loving yourself first.

You’ll learn:

  • The surefire way to know if you’re subconsciously perpetuating a pattern in your relationship – and what to do to dismantle it for good
  • How to feel completely appreciated for all that you are (your relationship will become a constant source of rejuvenation and inspiration)
  • The two big yet often hidden fears that can cause you to keep experiencing pain in relationships
  • The real reason you feel run-down and overextended in life and love – and how 10 minutes a week can help you feel recharged and in love again
  • How to share even the trickiest feelings in a way that won’t make your partner defensive – instead, they’ll want to listen more deeply to you

Learning to love yourself in a relationship is seeing that you will create the very situations you need that allow you to experience the parts of yourself you cannot love.

When you do that, you stop seeing the “wrong” in others. You stop being triggered all the time and you become a less judgmental person. When you love all of yourself, as if by magic, you will find yourself being completely loved by others.

https://www.heartsintrueharmony.com/self-love/a-big-clue-that-you-dont-love-yourself.html?s=15273

Diva Tasting: Hawaiian Dream Cake….

Hawaiian Dream Cake: Dessert

Ingredients

1  Pineapple Supreme Cake Mix

1 Cup Coconut

1 1/2 Cups Roasted Chopped Macadamia or Pecan Nuts 6-Ounces

12 Oz. Pkg. Premier White Baking Chips

20 Oz. Can Crushed Pineapple Drained

8 Oz. Pkg. Cream Cheese

1 Stick Unsalted Butter

1/2 Cup 4 Cups Powdered Sugar

4 Large Eggs (to Mix With Cake Mix)

1/3 Cup Canola Oil (to Mix With Cake Mix)

1/2 Cup Half-And-Half Or Heavy Whipping Cream (to Mix With Cake Mix)

Pineapple Slices, Maraschino Cherries For Garnish, If Desired

Instructions

Preheat oven to 350°.

Generously grease and our a 9×13” Glass baking dish. (Don’t merely spray with cooking spray).

Spread macadamia nuts, coconut and then white vanilla chips in the bottom of the prepared dish.

Mix cake mix according to package directions using 3 eggs, 1/3 cup canola oil, ½ cup half-and-half with an electric mixer.

Add drained crushed pineapple and stir to combine.

Spread cake mixture over top of the white vanilla chips.

Melt butter and cream cheese over low to medium heat in small saucepan. Remove from heat.

Add powdered sugar and whisk to combine. Spread powdered sugar mixture over top of cake batter in baking dish. Smooth the top.

Bake cake at 350° for about 45-75 minutes; depending on your oven.

If top is starting to get too brown, tent cake lightly with foil.

Bake an additional 20-40 minutes or until cake tests done when checking with a toothpick.

Cool completely before cutting into squares.

If desired, garnish cake with pineapple slices and drained maraschino cherries that have been rinsed, drained and patted dry with a paper towel.

Refrigerate until ready to serve.

Recipe Notes NOTE: You must really grease the baking dish for this to come out right. Use either Crisco shortening, butter or margarine to grease. Then shake, tilt and rotate the baking dish until it covers the bottom and sides of baking dish.

NOTE: You must use a glass baking dish to bake this cake in. It will not come out of an aluminum pan very well. Cream cheese tends to brown when baking for long lengths of time. The foil needs to cover the top but not be tightened down. It will take longer to bake the cake this way so that the top cooks properly. But the end result will be a perfectly beautiful cake on top and it won’t be overly browned.

Diva Ranting: No, It Is NOT You…

There is the famous quote: “There is none so blind as she/he who will not see…”  If you know someone like this you know a narcissist.  They are one of the most malignant forces on our planet.  They are the cause of mental abuse and violence against others universally.  This article was inspired by a blog I recently received from a friend, and I give it to you to  console, lighten, and uplift hearts that are subjugated to one or more of these people.  They hide in our schools, churches, in our families and especially in our political realms globally.  Do not beat yourself up is you are dealing with this.  Love yourself enough to gather the strength to rid yourself of them in your life.  I call them “psychic sponges” because their dominance, drama or whatever they hide it under is serious and malignant to you.  I share this because I have a friend going through this now and they deserve better, as do you.  

Namaste, The Queen Cronista

Narcissistic Abuse and Anxiety Disorders…General Review…

In this chaotic world anxiety disorders now show roots back in the earliest of human existence. Humans need it to survive in the volatile world in which they live. Anxiety is considered an inexplicable feeling of unease, nervousness and worry. It is true that we have evolved past the mores of our ancestors. So, what makes it happen in our modern world?

Some say it connects and is due to psychological and emotional abuse during ones childhood.. It has been found that early-life stress has a profound effect on the CNS (central nervous system) and that it reoccurs in adults in later life.

All venues agree that abuse, on any level at a young age, leaves deep psychological scars on the victims mental health. It may cause PTSD, anxiety, super-sensitivity and stress in the neuro stress response systems. These abuses may result in a distinct possibility of serious disorders such as anxiety and major depression occurrences.

Some studies suggest that narcissistic abuse is one of the most harmful types of psychological abuse that exists. It tends to leave the victim unable to think and reason clearly. These increased stressors eventually leads to adrenal fatigue. The ultimate outcome for some will be anxiety disorders, major depression and often both. This will increase the susceptibility to the narcissistic abuser and ones own inability to escape it.

Often the abused and the abuser feed off of each others enabling behaviors and the victim never realizes it. These malignant narcissists victims are the ones who are loving, gentle, empathetic humans who choose to see only the good in others including the abusive narcissist. This, then, makes the victim a good and willing target for the narcissists malignant, manipulative behaviors. The victim becomes nothing more than prey caught in a vat of narcissistic goo. Malignant narcissist love to pull the victim into the darkness with them and hold them there indefinitely.

Narcissists will leach every last drop of resistant from their prey and reduce them to feeling small and more dependent on these perpetrators. It’s like the old movie “Gas Light” they work on the victims brain and make them think they are loosing their minds. When confronted these malignant personalities will always turn the table back on the victim further lowering their self esteem. Thus they reinforce the old cliché …”A lie told a thousand times becomes truth”…This strategy of the malignanteventually leads to the victims to social avoidance, feelings of total disassociation, fatigue and complete physical and mental disability.

Sadly victims do not understand that the malignant narcissist has intentionally left them unable to fight, trapped in a vicious cycle of abuse they cannot extricate themselves from nor any longer deal with society.

Much of the research agrees that this type of abuse is far worse than even physical abuse. It leaves the abused victims unable to deal with life or to even recognize why. If you know such victims, encourage them to seek help from a mental health therapist. Let them know you see it and it is NOT their fault.

If you are a victim of such abuse KNOW that you are NOT at fault. You never have been. If you keep seeking the light of compassion and empathy you will eventually rise above. If you need help then get the professional help you deserve. Don’t let the darkness win.